For the most part, everyone lives by some set of values. They may not always be conscious of those values, but they are there. Whether they've obtained those values through their culture, religion, or just personal experiences, everyone has them. The cool thing about values is that we may share similar ones, but the way we go about expressing those values can be very different. I think that almost all of my values are based around one value in particular-FAMILY. And not just my blood-related family, but the family I have made throughout my almost 20 years of life. Honesty, loyalty, commitment, trust and even personal growth are all values that I feel stem from family. In my opinion, it is not possible to develop those values without family and close friendships.
"Girlfriends may come and go, but mothers and daughters are forever."
Growing up, and still today, my mom tells me this. Personally, I think she used to say this just so I would tell her stuff about whats going on in my life! ha But really though, I realize now, through thick and thin, she will always be there for me. She will always be my best friend and if there is anyone in this world I can count on, it's her. Through our relationship she has taught me the true value of loyalty and trust.
I italicized the word may because like my mom, I have a few close girlfriends that I truly think will be my friends for years to come, friendships that don't just happen over night, but take years to develop. It is easy, especially on a college campus, to be friendly and outgoing, but it takes time for real relationships and trust to grow. Because I value sincerity and commitment, I found a lot of people I met my freshman year to be fake. After joining Alpha Gamma Delta and once I started opening myself up to more people, I began to feel more comfortable being away from my close friends from home and family. Comfort is a huge value of mine, but someone once told me "Life beings at the end of your comfort zone." It is easy to feel safe and secure, but a lot of times you can't grow without feeling a little out of your element!
Balance- I need need need balance in my life. Without it, I feel all out of whack. I love going on vacations, or doing spontaneous things, but i need some sort of stability in my life. I love having a routine. Even the little things I try to do proportionally. Something as silly as I try to eat a salad, or veggies if I'm going to stuff my face with fried goodness! Or work hard, play hard is a great example. Last week I was so caught up with the social aspect of school, I was falling a little behind with my work. I took a day off to just relax and catch up on my work and sleep. I like going, going, going, but I also need to just relax and chillout. Something that really helps center me and relax, that I haven't done in a while is yoga. Above is a picture of an Om sybol that I always look at during tree pose!
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